There are many voices trying to inform you of a few things:
1) Who you are
2) What you do
3) Where you're going
4) Who you're with
The voices that inform these thoughts are also varied; they could be your own voice (whether with positive or negative sentiments about yourself), the voice of your family, your friends, your coworkers, your community.
But the question above calls for more than just the white noise of these voices, mixing together like a color wheel into brown listlessness. Who are you beyond the lies you tell yourself, and the lies others tell you? Who are you beyond one day's success, and another day's failure? When you go home and sit alone, what warms you, comforts you, and speaks against the overplayed record of your past, and the anxiety of your future?
Over a year ago, I created this Identity document (below). The reason I did so, is because I experienced an influx of voices trying to tell me who I was, and I needed to sift through what was accurate, and what needed to go. This was my process of sifting, and it is personal.
First, I listed all the things people (and myself) say that I am - whether good or bad. I listed them without thinking; all the things that have been impressed into my brain, and played over and over again within the ways I identify myself, or am self-conscious about, as people have tried to identify me. I put that section "What People (I) Say I Am" in a smaller font. Why? Because it isn't the core of who I am - and in fact, a lot of it gets in the way of actually defining and "finding" myself in healthy terms.
Next, I listed who I actually am. I used the Lord as my basis. I listed and wrote the things that I felt He called me. I listed scripture and biblical characters that I've connected to, or who exemplify parts of my journey.
This is my foundation - and this is not white noise. In order to stay above the buzzing of societal norms and pressure from peers, family, and friends, spending time finding your own "foundation" is necessary. This was my process.